Tomorrow marks five – FIVE whole days since Corey has left to go on a work trip. I would love to sit here and tell you this week has flown by and we had so much fun. But to be honest, that’s just not the truth.
Truth is, we have had meltdowns – from both the kids but also from me. We have had cuts and scrapes, and sleepless nights. We have had only soup for dinner and skipped bath night …. two nights in a row.
Its been hard. To be honest I don’t think that in the five years Corey and I have been together we have ever gone this long apart. I knew that the kids would have a hard time but I never imagined that I would be having a hard time as well. I miss my best friend, I miss whispering about our days as the kids are both asleep, I miss our silly jokes and I miss feeling so secure and safe knowing he’s next to me at night. I miss my time alone and hot showers. I miss seeing him snuggled up with our babies at night – but most importantly I miss my sanity.
Being away from your spouse is never easy – whether it be one night, one month or a whole year. When they are gone you are completely, one hundred percent responsible for taking care of the kids. And let me tell you, it is not easy.
So I have compiled a list to help you survive a week without daddy. I’m not promising you no meltdowns, but I can guarantee it will help make the time go smoother.
6 TIPS TO SURVIVING A WEEK WITHOUT DADDY:
- Start with a clean house – if its possible the day before your hubby leaves clean your house and do your laundry. You will feel so good knowing you will start your week fresh and clean – and you wont have to worry about cleaning the whole time he’s gone (maybe a little spot cleaning).
- Have a busy week – fill your week with fun and exciting things for you and the kids. Follow through with play dates you have been putting off, go to the mall, visit family out of town. Having a busy day will be exhausting, but it will fly by – you will be surprised that you don’t even think about hubby all day.
- Have a meal plan – there’s nothing worse than starting to cook dinner and realizing you have a key ingredient missing, and its easy to phone up hubby and have him pick it up on the way home. But when he’s gone that means you have to pack up the kids and run to the store for one item – definitely not fun. If you don’t know how to meal plan you should check out my prior post. https://www.joslynnwassing.com/how-to-meal-plan/
- Keep your bedtime routine – this is going to be the most difficult without hubby. But it is so important to keep the routine – same bedtimes, goodnight kisses and snuggles, and story time. You may be exhausted and ready to crash as soon as its bedtime, but remember that the kids miss him just as much – if not more than you do. So for their sake keep their routine and try to call hubby and have him be a part as well.
Write letters – Corey and I text through the whole day, so the hardest part about him being gone was not being able to share with him when something happened. So I started writing him letters every time something happened so when he comes home he can read them and I can tell him all about our week.
BONUS – Utilize grandparents – if you need a break – even if its for a ten minute shower, don’t hesitate to call the grandparents. They love watching the kids, and are always open to giving you a break. Last night my dad came over, brought us dinner, and a much needed coffee, took the kids to the park so I could take a shower, and then helped meOne more day. I can do it.